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T O P I C R E V I E WmymeyouHi! At the moment I am trying find out why I can't be with a man who seems to be the perfect match for me. We both like the same music, the same movies, similar food. We can talk about everything for hours. I guess, it is because we both have moons in the fire signs.He is also very loyal and committed and I have the feeling you can count on him in bad times.On the other hand, I sometimes think we are not really emotionally connected. One example: I had a rather difficult time including financial insecurity. He had a similar time a few years ago, so I thought he would understand me and give me some advice. He only said, it could be worse, imagine you were a single mom. He is more easy going than I am. Ok, of course he has this hardcore gemini thing with Ascendant, sun and mercury in gemini. I am more serious with my cappy sun and venus.The other thing is, he loves beer. He always finds a reason why he should drink beer. I had an alcoholic father and to be honest, I am not so into drinking. I always had partners who were insecure and/or had some addiction. I am afraid to be a co-dependent partner or to become addicted as well. So, I don't know if this could happen with this guy as well. In the composite horoscope, we had neptune in 7th house which stands for unequal relationships.Any insights? I know my 7 house is difficult with uranus conjunct moon in it but is there more in the charts I can't see? Maybe it is our mars square venus which we both have.He is on the outside. MoonfishYour Sun-Venus makes harsh aspects to his Mars-Jupiter-Saturn. At times, you probably find him way too aggressive, controlling, and overall has habits that you generally find unappealing.Your Pluto squares his Venus: I've noticed that especially with men being Venus, they become obsessed with the Woman and Venus-Pluto harsh aspects normally means Unrequited Love. Despite the fact that you may want to run away I believe the thing that prevents you is your Saturn trines his Venus. This aspect is probably the main suspect because it makes feel a certain level of responsibility for him. Vice-Versa his Saturn opposites your Sun-Venus. Although you can find him harsh and emotionally draining this makes your connection to him rock soild. YanmorgThis isn't a good synastry overall from what I see but there are some really nice aspects poking out in there so I see why you're confused on one end.Your similar tastes come from that exact Moon-Moon trine WOW. like you said. This is why he seems so perfect for you despite other factors.Moon sign compatibility makes up for a lot of negative aspects in synastry. I can vouch for this one by experience.Plus, I agree with what Moonfish said. It's those harsh aspects from Saturn, Jupiter, Mars. All 3 planets are needed in Synastry but can turn things ugly real fast depending on the aspects. Saturn harsh aspects are solid, but draining. They suck the life out of you. Those Pluto squares turns things sour too. Creates a level of mistrust or uneasiness and you guys have hard Pluto aspects both ways. Those negative aspects from outer planets are just enhanced with Pluto there. It adds a bitter, jealous overtone to it all. Bad vibes all around BUT that Moon-Moon trine, Saturn-Venus trine, moon-jupiter BOTH WAYS keeps things going. Although he has very bad habits that are probably a major turn off for you, emotionally, he's damn near perfect. You feel comfortable with him. As a result, you might look at his annoying habits as manageable due to that jupiter optimism and good will it generates. I've seen jupiter save many relationships including my parents' marriage,mymeyouThank you for your comments! Last time we met I felt very comfertable with him and we had a great time On the other hand he keeps telling me how important beer is for him and where and when he wants to drink it. This is sometimes very hard for me because he reminds me of my dad in his early alcoholic career. My jupiter is very strong in the natal chart and usually I am optimistic. But my capricorn planets make me very serious and he is so easy going I sometimes wonder if I am not too boring for him.But I am also not sure if my moon conj. uranus in 7th house is looking for excuses to run away from him.I also can confirm the pluto-venus square. He tried to suprise me at work but most of the time I wasn't there. He said I should tell him whenever I am not in the office and when I am back. That was a little bit too much for me in beginning. Still I am waiting for some stalker characterists from my side. ^^liz45750You having so much in Cap, you're going to want to run away from anything that feels like it could be something you're interested in. I have Cap venus and im terrified of love, but very much want it. A few things I see, his neptune on your DSC will change how you view partnerships. I would venture to say it will make you idealize him very much and also make you reevaluate your own neptunian qualities. Which is probably another reason why you're analyzing your need to escape, as escapism is very neptunian. You put jupiter on his MC, that suggest he see's good fortune in having you in his future, although I believe that's more career oriented? As for the pluto/venus, you're the pluto, you will be making him obsessed with you. Other aspects will determine how this plays out, IMO, but he will eventually show this side. I've only been the pluto in an opposition to venus and I was very obsessed but then quickly repulsed. In my squares I'm ALWAYS the venus. I hate it. I'm always obsessed. I know it's quite flattering at first to have someone crazy about you, but when they turn crazy AT you because it's energy we can't handle it's not so cool, lol. It's flattering that he wants to surprise you at work, but if he gets obsessive like me, it ruins the relationship. I stress myself out over the pluto to the point that I just want away from them in order to feel peace. This wrecks the pluto person. Just be careful not to spend the following X number of years wrapped up in an obsessive and idealized relationship. liz45750Oh! Another thing!His 7th house cusp is in Sag, he's going to want a partner with Sag qualities. I would think you having so much in Cap, next door, it wouldn't be "boring" like you say, but more serious and somber than what he's looking for. Cap is goal oriented, Sag is fun oriented. He has a Gemini sun with leo moon and venus. He's going to require A LOT of attention. Fun, happy, cheerful attention. The problem here is that Cap will give that, I don't doubt cap, BUT, it's only when everything else on the to-do list has been checked off. Cap wants to know where all of this is headed before they feel comfortable participating in it. Gemini/leo can't stand to define where things are going, they enjoy the ride more than the destination. My venus in cap struggles with leo venus and I was about to make a post actually. I love them very much, but I can't make them happy. In order to "fake it" and give them what they need in order to get to the level of relationship that I want, my cap venus is going nutso and feeling VERY resentful. mymeyouWhen I first checked his chart I was very impressed by the geminie/leo qualities. Although I sometimes wish to be more easy going/ flirty like them but actually I am not, maybe only on the outside with my gemini ascendant. Sometimes I hate my capricorn traits He is very easy going and very proud. He also says first comes fun then enjoyment and somewhere inbetween work. Leo-sun men were always difficult to handle for me. I don't understand their pride. My sun in his 8th house indicate it won't be that easy for him as well.Most interesting thing is we know each other from work but he is working in a different department. His office is in different building. I was very suprised when he told me they speak on the phone almost every day and sometimes they go for a drink after work (oh my god!). Despite jupiter on his mc my moon is also in his 6th house. My boss told me today we should work together on a project :O Don't know what to think about that but I don't like the idea to be in a relationship or having an affair with a potential coworker. However, both men don't know I am applying for other jobs Luckily, my cappy venus is very patient and I took time to get to know him better.In the composite horoscope we also have neptune in 7th house. In my last relationships neptune was always in that house in the composite chart. I was a mother and a nurse who has to take care of the "adult child". Maybe this is also the reason why I hesitate.liz45750I think I came to the realization today that my cap venus is extremely jealous of leo venus. The fact that they're so light hearted and happy makes me resent them. I want to be a part of that and I want to give them what makes them happy, but i'm sooooo insecure with myself I think, that i'm bitter in doing so and have to push them away after to sulk. Such inner turmoil! lol
On the other hand, I sometimes think we are not really emotionally connected. One example: I had a rather difficult time including financial insecurity. He had a similar time a few years ago, so I thought he would understand me and give me some advice. He only said, it could be worse, imagine you were a single mom. He is more easy going than I am. Ok, of course he has this hardcore gemini thing with Ascendant, sun and mercury in gemini. I am more serious with my cappy sun and venus.
The other thing is, he loves beer. He always finds a reason why he should drink beer. I had an alcoholic father and to be honest, I am not so into drinking. I always had partners who were insecure and/or had some addiction. I am afraid to be a co-dependent partner or to become addicted as well. So, I don't know if this could happen with this guy as well. In the composite horoscope, we had neptune in 7th house which stands for unequal relationships.
Any insights? I know my 7 house is difficult with uranus conjunct moon in it but is there more in the charts I can't see? Maybe it is our mars square venus which we both have.
He is on the outside.
Your Pluto squares his Venus: I've noticed that especially with men being Venus, they become obsessed with the Woman and Venus-Pluto harsh aspects normally means Unrequited Love.
Despite the fact that you may want to run away I believe the thing that prevents you is your Saturn trines his Venus. This aspect is probably the main suspect because it makes feel a certain level of responsibility for him. Vice-Versa his Saturn opposites your Sun-Venus. Although you can find him harsh and emotionally draining this makes your connection to him rock soild.
Your similar tastes come from that exact Moon-Moon trine WOW. like you said. This is why he seems so perfect for you despite other factors.
Moon sign compatibility makes up for a lot of negative aspects in synastry. I can vouch for this one by experience.
Plus, I agree with what Moonfish said. It's those harsh aspects from Saturn, Jupiter, Mars. All 3 planets are needed in Synastry but can turn things ugly real fast depending on the aspects. Saturn harsh aspects are solid, but draining. They suck the life out of you. Those Pluto squares turns things sour too. Creates a level of mistrust or uneasiness and you guys have hard Pluto aspects both ways. Those negative aspects from outer planets are just enhanced with Pluto there. It adds a bitter, jealous overtone to it all. Bad vibes all around BUT that Moon-Moon trine, Saturn-Venus trine, moon-jupiter BOTH WAYS keeps things going. Although he has very bad habits that are probably a major turn off for you, emotionally, he's damn near perfect. You feel comfortable with him. As a result, you might look at his annoying habits as manageable due to that jupiter optimism and good will it generates. I've seen jupiter save many relationships including my parents' marriage,
I also can confirm the pluto-venus square. He tried to suprise me at work but most of the time I wasn't there. He said I should tell him whenever I am not in the office and when I am back. That was a little bit too much for me in beginning. Still I am waiting for some stalker characterists from my side. ^^
A few things I see, his neptune on your DSC will change how you view partnerships. I would venture to say it will make you idealize him very much and also make you reevaluate your own neptunian qualities. Which is probably another reason why you're analyzing your need to escape, as escapism is very neptunian.
You put jupiter on his MC, that suggest he see's good fortune in having you in his future, although I believe that's more career oriented?
As for the pluto/venus, you're the pluto, you will be making him obsessed with you. Other aspects will determine how this plays out, IMO, but he will eventually show this side. I've only been the pluto in an opposition to venus and I was very obsessed but then quickly repulsed. In my squares I'm ALWAYS the venus. I hate it. I'm always obsessed. I know it's quite flattering at first to have someone crazy about you, but when they turn crazy AT you because it's energy we can't handle it's not so cool, lol. It's flattering that he wants to surprise you at work, but if he gets obsessive like me, it ruins the relationship. I stress myself out over the pluto to the point that I just want away from them in order to feel peace. This wrecks the pluto person.
Just be careful not to spend the following X number of years wrapped up in an obsessive and idealized relationship.
His 7th house cusp is in Sag, he's going to want a partner with Sag qualities. I would think you having so much in Cap, next door, it wouldn't be "boring" like you say, but more serious and somber than what he's looking for.
Cap is goal oriented, Sag is fun oriented.
He has a Gemini sun with leo moon and venus. He's going to require A LOT of attention. Fun, happy, cheerful attention. The problem here is that Cap will give that, I don't doubt cap, BUT, it's only when everything else on the to-do list has been checked off. Cap wants to know where all of this is headed before they feel comfortable participating in it. Gemini/leo can't stand to define where things are going, they enjoy the ride more than the destination. My venus in cap struggles with leo venus and I was about to make a post actually. I love them very much, but I can't make them happy. In order to "fake it" and give them what they need in order to get to the level of relationship that I want, my cap venus is going nutso and feeling VERY resentful.
He is very easy going and very proud. He also says first comes fun then enjoyment and somewhere inbetween work. Leo-sun men were always difficult to handle for me. I don't understand their pride. My sun in his 8th house indicate it won't be that easy for him as well.
Most interesting thing is we know each other from work but he is working in a different department. His office is in different building. I was very suprised when he told me they speak on the phone almost every day and sometimes they go for a drink after work (oh my god!). Despite jupiter on his mc my moon is also in his 6th house. My boss told me today we should work together on a project :O Don't know what to think about that but I don't like the idea to be in a relationship or having an affair with a potential coworker. However, both men don't know I am applying for other jobs Luckily, my cappy venus is very patient and I took time to get to know him better.
In the composite horoscope we also have neptune in 7th house. In my last relationships neptune was always in that house in the composite chart. I was a mother and a nurse who has to take care of the "adult child". Maybe this is also the reason why I hesitate.
Such inner turmoil! lol
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